Advice for Verbal Doms

I have been chatting with a few new men, lately, and one is new to Dominance and submission. He is trying out being an online Dom, and I offered my services as a target, guinea pig, and guide.

In our discussions, I am respectfully going to be giving Him advice on how to interact with scum like me, and reinforcing the things He does that work well. It occurred to me that this might actually be good content for this blog, too! So, with that in mind, I will be including a series of advice for verbal Doms.

Most of these will be focused on online interactions, but I imagine that there may be times in which I'm able to write about face-to-face interactions as well. Time will tell.

Following are the first pieces of advice I was able to give.

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Be confident.
Even if you aren't feeling it yourself, be sure to express yourself in a confident manner. Don't worry about coming across cocky or arrogant; it's Your right as a Dom to be so.

However, when asked a question about what you want, or about what the sub should do, responses such as "I guess" and "sure" seem even less confident to the sub than they might seem when You express them. "Yes" and "Do that" are more forceful -- although the suggestion may still have been the sub's, You are accepting that suggestion in a considered way, not just as a default.

If You don't actually care, say so. For example: "I don't give a fuck, faggot, you can do it if you want." You might even add, "but you better make it worth my time." if there's the expectation that You will be paying attention.

Profanity is great, but don't overuse it.
Saying "fuck", "fucking", or "rougher" versions like "fuckin'" can be really hot, but if You say it too often, and in the wrong places, it may come across as trying too hard. This is especially true if the uses aren't aimed at the sub himself, even if somewhat indirectly. "It's a fucking hot day today, why aren't you naked?" doesn't do anything. "It's a hot day today, what are thinking wearing all those fucking clothes?" is better; although the "fucking" isn't about the sub but his clothes, it's close enough to make him feel stupid and ashamed for wearing them. And "Strip, you fuckin' bitch!" is as direct as You can get.

The Voice: Cigars, Sex, and Men

I had the pleasure of interacting with a couple of men this past summer, both smoking cigars. I ended up licking one of them all over, worshiping his body. As I listen to this one, that scenario keeps coming back to me...

The idea of this hypno file is to make the listener lust after all men who smoke cigars. The imagery is great, as usual: He talks about kneeling at the feet of a "cigar daddy" and sucking him off as he puffs on his cigar. He gets into details, like feeling the cigar against your face as Daddy holds you and pulls you onto his cock; or running your hand through Daddy's chest hair. There's a trigger, that you get erect when you see a man light a cigar.

I'm getting there...

The Voice: two hypno files

OK, with these I hit the "wow" stage. In fact, I've contacted the Voice about doing a custom file for me.

Cock Sucker Hypno loop

This 20 minute file flew by -- I listened to it twice, and probably would have said only 10 minutes had gone by. I'm a cocksucker, and I knew it (and readily admitted it) before I got this file. So saying it out loud as he directed me to (in the file) wasn't a big deal.

And yet, with that and some of the other things he prompts during this hypno file, I really got into submissive headspace. I felt almost exactly as I feel when I kneel before a Dominant man, ready to service his cock. I was right there, in my place, just where I needed to be.

You can bet I'll be going back to this one, over and over again.

whore for the Voice hypno loop

This one was couched more as a fantasy (at least at first) but was no fuckin' hot, that I had to pull out my cock and start masturbating. He didn't tell me to in the file, exactly, but I couldn't help it, I just needed to stroke stroke stroke.

He does say something along the lines of, "the more you masturbate to this file, the more you need it..." etc. This is fairly typical of hypno files, to try to compel you to listen to them again. Well, I don't know if it's because of that or just because I'm a horny scum and this hit my buttons, but I've listen to this -- and jerked off to it -- three more times since that first listen. I haven't always gotten through the whole thing, but still.

There's that annoying "and you want to make this fantasy a reality" bit that makes me hesitate from recommending it whole-heartedly. I mean, outside from how HOT it sounds as a fantasy, it probably would not make for a satisfying life in reality. I don't have worries about myself, but I don't know how it works for those more susceptible to hypno files.

But I do love it, both of them actually. Others may fall out of favor, but I suspect even if I leave this for a while, I'll eventually come back to them.

The Voice: You Like Strong Men, Glory Hole Days

You Like Strong Men

Another SoundClick, spoken word file (not hypno). This is the intro file, free to download. It's short, only a few minutes. It's a decent introduction -- I can imagine his fake laugh can be annoying for a lot of people, but I'm able to overlook it because the rest is pretty hot.

Glory Hole Days

Like Public Park Humiliation, this one has a description of the Voice taking control of the listener and taking him to a porn store glory hole to service men as long as the Voice wants it. And like PPH, this one was hot -- I was hard throughout most of it. I'm really enjoying his voice, and loving the verbal abuse and the description -- detailed enough that I can clearly put myself in the story.

The Voice: semen eater, Rental Van, and Public Park Humiliation

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The Voice

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Senator -- Humiliation and Possession Final

I finally went through the humiliation and possession final. This one was long, with two parts to the induction. I was relaxed and ready, following the Senator's instructions. In this one, he requires you to cum -- multiple times. Well, maybe it's because I wasn't really deep in a trance, maybe it's because I'm in my 40s and while I can (and do) cum two or three times a day, I can't do it twice in the space of 10 minutes. After the first time I came, I continued stroking as he required, and it felt good -- but then, I just got bored listening to him repeating the same stuff. I finally just said "enough" and stopped.

Don't get me wrong, it was a good file, I just couldn't maintain the interest in it that it needed.

There's a humiliation and possession "addendum" available, but I think I'm done giving him my money. And no, I don't fucking owe him.