I have been chatting with a few new men, lately, and one is new to Dominance and submission. He is trying out being an online Dom, and I offered my services as a target, guinea pig, and guide.
In our discussions, I am respectfully going to be giving Him advice on how to interact with scum like me, and reinforcing the things He does that work well. It occurred to me that this might actually be good content for this blog, too! So, with that in mind, I will be including a series of advice for verbal Doms.
Most of these will be focused on online interactions, but I imagine that there may be times in which I'm able to write about face-to-face interactions as well. Time will tell.
Following are the first pieces of advice I was able to give.
Be confident.
Even if you aren't feeling it yourself, be sure to express yourself in a confident manner. Don't worry about coming across cocky or arrogant; it's Your right as a Dom to be so.
However, when asked a question about what you want, or about what the sub should do, responses such as "I guess" and "sure" seem even less confident to the sub than they might seem when You express them. "Yes" and "Do that" are more forceful -- although the suggestion may still have been the sub's, You are accepting that suggestion in a considered way, not just as a default.
If You don't actually care, say so. For example: "I don't give a fuck, faggot, you can do it if you want." You might even add, "but you better make it worth my time." if there's the expectation that You will be paying attention.
Profanity is great, but don't overuse it.
Saying "fuck", "fucking", or "rougher" versions like "fuckin'" can be really hot, but if You say it too often, and in the wrong places, it may come across as trying too hard. This is especially true if the uses aren't aimed at the sub himself, even if somewhat indirectly. "It's a fucking hot day today, why aren't you naked?" doesn't do anything. "It's a hot day today, what are thinking wearing all those fucking clothes?" is better; although the "fucking" isn't about the sub but his clothes, it's close enough to make him feel stupid and ashamed for wearing them. And "Strip, you fuckin' bitch!" is as direct as You can get.
